The Man You Had in Mind

The Man You Had in Mind

The Man You Had in Mind

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The Man You Had in Mind

2006

1h 35m

2.3(3 votes)

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The Man You Had in Mind explores the intimate lives of five Oregon gay male couples; the forces that bring them together, the journeys they face, and the culture in which they survive and thrive.

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